Friday, October 10, 2008
No...(foot stomp, foot stomp, stick out lower lip!!)...
...I AM MORE STUBBORN THAN MY BABY!!!
So Jack had his 6 MONTH wellness check this week... I know, holy cow right!! It's so hard to believe that he is half a year old!
Anyway, I'll give you the stats in a min, but first I must tell you the true reason for my need to write this blog. We have been struggling with nights and Jack ever since his surgery. Before he had his little noggin' cut open my sweet baby was sleeping from about 8:00 pm to 4:00 am... I was proud. That was easy! I was relieved that we didn't have to do any real sleep training...
Fast forward to 2 months post op! AAAAHHHHHHH!!! I'm more tired now that when he was an infant. Not only is he waking up every 30 min to 2 hours, but he moves ALL day! (crawling is just around the corner too -- oh boy!) Last month our pediatrician told me to start getting him to sleep more by "crying it out." We discovered quickly that we are not fans of this method!! After two nights of screaming for 2 hours without a break and then staying up pretty much the rest of the night I gave up!
I was advised by some really great moms to try to "dream feed." Aaron calls this the "phantom feed" because he can just hear what Jack would tell us in the morning if he could talk, of his odd dream about being mysteriously lifted from his crib in his sleep and returning somehow full and content (kinda like an alien abduction or something) This worked for about two nights until Jack started waking up on his own to eat at about 10:30 or 11:00 before I even had the chance to get in there and feed him in his sleep!
We tried a few other tactics without luck...
This is when the nights got rougher... I think we confused the heck out of the poor little guy! He was waking up every hour or so wanting to at least be held and I became a softy and gave him what he wanted!
We finally got him back to the "up about 3 times before morning" routine before this last doctor's visit. I kind of relayed this to our pediatrician (without making me look too moronic). He said to me, I have to do it... crying out will work, just do it!
I shrugged him off in my mind - no way will I let my baby scream for that long... it can't work for everyone!
THEN!!! I asked him how long do I let him cry for.
"Until he stops," he said. "He will go to sleep eventually"
I said, "He cried with no consoling him for 2 hours straight!"
"Let him go longer," he says. "He is a stubborn one, isn't he?"
This is when Jack looked at him and laughed! Literally, right when he said it Jack turned his head away from his toy looked at the doctor and laughed!
This is when I decided I can let Jack out stubborn me! If I let him beat me now I can't imagine him as a toddler and adolescent!
Now, those of you that know us well know that if Jack got his stubbornness from anyone, it wasn't his father... I can pout, and dig my claws in, and outright compete with the best of them! Just ask my parents about Kerre as a child if you don't believe me!
So my stubbornness kicked in and I am now stubborning to stubborn to be more stubborn than my baby! I WILL WIN!!!
So here's how we're doing... Yesterday we started with naps... My modified crying it out method was to put him down sleepy but still awake. Leave for 5 min, come back for 5 min, leave for 5 min and so on... The first nap took 30 min for him to go to sleep! I was amazed... by bed time he was out in 10 min!!!!! - this is just after one day and three naps!! (today is 4 min in, 6 min out... tomorrow 3,7...)
Now the waking up at night will still be a struggle, but we are going to conquer the naps first then get more determined with night time wakes!
For those of you that made it to the end of this -- Jack is now the size of an average 10 month old!! (18 lbs and 28 1/4 in long) Whod-a-thunk that Aaron and I would make a big baby? He's pretty much all muscle.
He is sitting up very well - has been for three weeks (we surprised the pediatrician with that one) -- the helmet has made is neck super strong!
He had 5 shots at his appointment and did very well with them! (he wore his Mr Happy shirt in optimism that he wouldn't be too mad at me)
He is now eating solids three times a day and gets to start meats.(oh yum!)
He also has just about mastered the army crawl. Here's a video, but mind you this was 3 days ago and he's improved A LOT since then! He can go much further and turn as necessary to get a toy... he amazes me daily!
I love being a Mommy!